The first day back to homeschool did not start exactly like I had planned. When my daughter had her first meltdown within the first two minutes of school, I had one too. I sent her to her room to cool off and then I quickly grabbed my Bible and headed to mine. Our family devotion was in the book of Romans so I stayed in that book and flipped to my favorite chapter looking for words to help with the situation.
I turned to Romans chapter 5 – a great reminder of God’s great love for us when I came across the passage about suffering. My MOM View – I do not want to put on my child the burden of school being suffering. I might see that she’s struggling but I don’t want to speak it over her so I haven’t approached her in that manner before. I took the approach, “School might be frustrating, but let’s try to make it fun, or at least decide to finish the work so we can have fun later!”
God revealed to me that school is her suffering.
For me to gloss over that and not recognize it, meant I was not validating her feelings, emotions, thoughts, and her reality. As I read the passage from her point of view – looking at school as her suffering – I actually found HOPE in those words. I decided to share this with her in a heart to heart and prayed my words would bring hope and not push her farther away.
As I opened the door to my room, it hit me. I tried to do it on my own. I can’t. I Can Not Do This. But God can. I have to lay down my ideas and my pride – fully relying on the power of God. Not my power.
My MOM View needs to be the same as HIS View.
I took the Bible to her room for a heart-to-heart with those verses as the basis. As we read the scripture together and talked about what school was like for her, she found hope. In that hope we were able to rejoice! I revealed to her that school’s going to look different this year but that it was going to be a compromise. She would be doing discovery therapy work with the NILD program daily, however the textbook based reading work (which was way too advanced for her) we were going to put aside. We also came to terms on some other issues and I let her know that a goal in her lessons and therapy is less frustration. I assured her that I was on her side and that together we will make this a successful and enjoyable year. Rejoice even in the times of suffering, since we know that persevering through them will bring hope.
The real test came when we attempted school again.
Let me tell you, we passed that test with flying colors. We didn’t have just a great day of school, our whole first week was amazing! My (new) MOM View is now hopeful.
What about you? How was your first day back to school? I would love to hear your stories!