Debates happen all around us with every subject from vaccinations to yoga pants to celebrating holidays. Without getting into a debate, I wonder, should you celebrate Valentine’s Day? Take this quick quiz to find out.
- Has it been a few weeks (or months) since you’ve done something special and out of the ordinary for your spouse or children?
- Does your spouse or children expect something for Valentine’s Day?
- Are you struggling in your marriage or in your relationship with your kids?
- Do you need to reset or find renewal in these relationships?
- Has it been awhile since your children have seen you go out of your way to do something special for your spouse?
- BONUS QUESTION: Does the over-comercilization of holidays bother you?
If you answered yes to any of the questions #1-5, then YES! You should celebrate Valentine’s Day!
But what about #6? It’s OK to think that and still celebrate. We live in America. Just about everything is commercialized. The over-commercialization of Valentine’s Day bothers me immensely. In fact, I try NOT to buy any Valentine’s Day products until AFTER Valentine’s Day. In fact, our family often celebrates it on the 15th or later. If we do celebrate it on the actual day (like we will this year) we do not go out for dinner and I prefer to make hand made cards, gifts, or write letters.
Here are some tips if you answered YES to any of the other questions:
- It’s easy to allow the busyness of life keep us from having time to do special things for those we love. This year, pin your favorite LOVE ideas and try to do them all through the year.
- This question is double sided. On one hand, you don’t want your kids to expect gifts to the point of demanding them while on the other hand, you don’t want to disappoint your kids. (Or it could be your spouse!) There is a fine line between children expecting gifts and children appreciating them. If you feel like your kids lean towards expecting instead of appreciating gifts, discuss entitlement. But that’s a whole other blog post! This year, focus on the LOVE part of the holiday and give them gifts of love, such as letters.
- There are times we all struggle. If your family is in the midst of one now, it’s definitely time to put yourself aside and shower your family with love. Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. I Peter 4:8-9
- Start your renewal with the Lord.
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. Romans 12:2-3
- Your children watch what you do. Because they don’t see the most outward expression of love between you (wink, wink), it’s important for them to see the little things. They see (besides the just mentioned, ahem) when you act lovingly towards your husband and when you don’t. Is there tension in your marriage? They might even pick it up before you do! Bottom line: They know. Their belief systems of marriage comes from what they see in yours. For that reason alone, let them see little kisses and hugs, notes left around the house, and Mommy (occasionally) getting all dressed up for Daddy, even if it’s for a dinner at home.
SO take some time on Valentine’s Day (or the day after) to celebrate LOVE! What questions would YOU add to the quiz? Let’s have some fun with this! Leave them in the comments!